I'm ready to experiment and monitor results. I'm going to plan an acting "As if" situation and I'd really appreciate some feedback if you feel inclined.
My H is returning home in about a week and I will see him for the first time in a month at a school function. I would like to act "as if" I was confident that he would be happy to see me.
"How was I going to approach this situation given my pessimism?"
Because we're separated and H said he's not interested in reconciliation, I was expected him to act distant when we see each other at the function. I was going to smile, be pleasant but distant and act like I wasn't really happy or unhappy that he was back.
"How would I like the situation to turn out instead?"
I would like him to look at me with pleasure and to realize that I am genuinely happy to see him.
"How would I handle this situation differently if I were expecting good things to happen?"
Here's where I'm uncertain -- I feel that acting "as if" I expected him to be happy to see me might be unrealistic given our situation. I can't be exhuberant or hug him. But I could be quietly nice to him and smile at him without acting distant.
Do you think I'm on the right track with this? Feedback from anyone appreciated.
