Working on my W's MLC - the saga continues III

[Fixer]

My W still sleeps on the couch most of the night. Lately, it hasn't bothered me if she comes to bed. Sometimes she says she'll be coming to bed in a few minutes, but she doesn't make to bed.

This morning she before she left for work she gave me a big hug. I looked her in the eyes and she suprised me by giving me a quick kiss.

Fixer

[Jack_Three_Beans]

So what is different? What are you doing differently?

It might be nothing...but probably not.

[Fixer]

Jack,

I tell her how I feel about something and then let it go.

I started getting kisses months ago. We got into an argument and she wouldn't let me kiss her anymore. I told her that holding onto our problems was selfish and immature.

After that comment she would let me kiss her. When we hug I don't always kiss her. Today, I didn't plan on giving her a kiss.

Fixer

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Cool good keep it up!

: )

[Fixer]

Thanks, I hope I can.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Fixer you're one of the few people I have little doubt of their convictions. If you want something you'll get it come hell or high water.

[Fixer]

Thanks for the note about my convictions.

My W called today to hint about going out for dinner. She can still find the money to go out, but doesn't have any money to buy groceries. I told her to buy some food and to take the money it out of my account.

We use to pool our income and split all the bills 50/50 - until she dropped the bomb. She's still paying off credit card bills from years ago.

Do you think it may be time to go back to the 50/50 arangement?

fixer

[Jack_Three_Beans]

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
All play and no work makes Jack a mere toy.

Look, she might be up to her eyeballs in debt...but not allowing for any fun like going out for the occasional dinner and what's the point? You lose sight of the goal because the grindstone took off your nose and half your face.

You have a better idea of whether or not to trust her on financial issues...and money is one of those bigger trust issues.

Do you trust her enough right now? Do you see yourself trusting her down the road?

[Fixer]

Jack,

I've made a commitment to stay married and she knows it. For the most part my W is and has been an honest person. When she was struck with the MLC monster she stayed very private. When she ran up the CC bills she intended on paying them back. Even before her MLC she wasn't very responsible when it came to finances.

If she leaves me it's because she wants to shake up her life. I think she's smart enough to know what she has, but too selfish to love.

fixer

[Grace_O]

I think she's smart enough to know what she has, but too selfish to love.

I hope she's smart enough....

HUGS