I bet if you found out he was having an affair you'd detach...
misery is defined lots of ways...
lets see..you guys are fianancially ok, roof over your head, kids seem to be ok..lots of extra cirricular activities..husband is coming home to those it appears..both of you appear to have good health
wow..I know a guy here..who..
1. his wife moved out in fall of 07...2. he came here in spring 08..May I think....3. his eldest D has been in all kinds of trouble, moved away from both parents..4. His W acted like she was going to reconcile on numerous occasions..even screwed him 2 or 3 times..5. even promised Retroville...6. he lost his job in march 09 7. he's in he middle of bankruptcy, foreclosure now.. 8. he had to go back to school in order to get a new job..
that's misery..
Love is a choice..detachment is a choice..if you think that either of those are not choices..then you have a long ways to go..
