Just read through this thread, including your intro post.
You have done SO WELL with GALing and DBing, with counseling and reading and learning. Oh my goodness. Your efforts WILL pay off.
Definitely read Schnarch. You will learn a ton!
It sounds as if you need to focus on building your emotional connection and trust for a bit. Perhaps in the past, you were friendly roommates and you would go in for the kill whenever you desired, and then she would oblige even though she wasn't feeling loved enough on a regular basis to be warmed up. An EA gave her just what she wasn't getting from you - emotional connection and passion.
So, non-sexual touching, eye contact, and talk about enough things outside of the R so that she doesn't feel overwhelmed and pressured. Keep taking her out on dates, keep telling her you love her, keep complimenting her as long as all of what you are saying are true feelings (she can smell flattery just for flattery's sake.)
I'm not surprised at her snide remarks about you needing books to know how to be in a R. She just wants you to know what to do. I wouldn't push the LL test on her any more, or any other test for that matter. Do the work yourself, and let things happen naturally for her for now.
It is good that you are still DBing, as it might take some time for her to believe in your changes and truly commit to working with you. MC is GREAT for you two -- definitely keep that up!
