It's all ablazin'....

[blindsided1]

Well, lo and behold.....H just called. He wanted to know when our next courtdate was. I told him that I didn't know we had another courtdate. They hadn't given me one when I went down there. So, he says when did you file the paperwork? And, I told him that I was just waiting on him to finish up his end of it. He went ballistic. He said that he doesn't know what he needs to finish. I told him that he should ask his lawyer or paralegal or whoever and to let me know so I can file my end of things. Then I asked him how the job search was going. He told me that he was working for a staffing agency. I asked how the UI issue was going and he told me that it hadn't come through yet. I know that's a lie. I just said "Oh,It hasn't come through, huh? Okay". He got off the phone so fast my head was spinning. So, I called him back and I said "Oh, H, by the way..I just wanted to give you a heads up so you're not blindsided....the court told me that I have to go through CSS to get the child support garnished. So, don't freak out if you get some paperwork from the DA's office. He flew off the handle..."I'm so sick of all this sh!t. The court is screwing us around. I'm getting screwed with CS. I just want this all to be done with." I said, "Me too. I know it has been so crazy and screwy. But, all you have to do is go finish up your part and then I can finish my part and it will be done." ...all calm like. I said, "I just don't know what else to do about the cs. I can't pay the bills. I've already borrowed money from people. I need formula and diapers and can barely make the daycare payments". This way, you don't have to worry about giving me the money, it'll just come out of your check." He starts complaining..."I can't believe this. They're going to add on the back child support like they did in the beginning. They'll put that ontop of the $800 I already owe you in arrears." I said, "Yes, they probably will. But, they can't take anything until you start working or get a job. So, why worry about it now? I was hoping that UI would have come through by now and you could start giving me some money. But, they haven't and I don't know what else to do. I haven't filed the paperwork, yet. So, maybe they'll come through soon here and you can start paying some of it. And, we can see how that goes." He got all upset "whatever, whatever. I don't understand why you need to garnish my wages." I just said, "H, you are the one that filed the wage garnishment paperwork at your last employer. I didn't file that, you did." So, then I asked him about picking up his daughter on Friday and was calm and unopposing.

So, now I have given him a chance to come clean about the UI money and start paying CS. I'll be interested to see if he gives me some money on Sat. It's not going to stop me from going to CSS. I just trust him to keep it up. But, maybe I'll get a little for now if he feels like I won't do it if he starts paying me.

What do you think? Did I do okay? He got off the phone with me and didn't call me any names or anything. Just said, "goodbye".