Lan, You have a very thoughtful way with words to tackle W head on. But be careful, while you may have an opening now and are making good use of it, old patterns tend to easily return on both sides and all it takes is one incident/backslide to trigger an avalanche. That's why I suggested also getting W on a 'program' for change. Good your BP is down - it was probably the stress of W's behavior more than anything else.
