Alright fellas, I need some help here. I have posted my sitch before and haven't really gotten much help. I do appreciate those who have commented. I read so much about what a woman wants from a man. She wants him to take charge and be a man and so on and so forth and to get her back you act "as if" and make her come to you. What am I supposed to do as a woman? After the huge blow up where I totally freaked out and said venomous things to my H, I have gone dark. I took his mail to him and left him the book The Five Love Languages. I did not see him on this occassion. I have no reason to see him and really no place to run into him. When he left he didn't even give me his new cell phone number. He has now forwarded his mail. (these were things done before the blowup even) I have no choice to go dark other than to go to the gym where he lives and his gf (my ex best friend) is the one spending time with him there. Help a chick out! Other than losing weight (doing down 42 lbs so far), making myself look gorgeous daily (doing), working out (doing), doing stuff with the kids (doing), what should I be doing? I've been told to just let him go and he'll come back, but I am not so sure after the mean things I said. Although to be honest, he has his own horrible things he has done. He has said so many things, but I believe that it all boils down to him repeating the pattern of his life. In a relationship, relationship gets hard, he finds someone to listen to the problems in the relationship, he loses his feelings for the one he is with and falls for the one he is talking to, bails....rinse....repeat. He has many issues from his childhood that I believe he is scared to face. Coach your thoughts would be very welcome.
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
