On the first day I found out about the om, the no-contact/transparency agreement was relatively simple. No contact, and no communication. She ends it with him ASAP and that's it. No "good mornings", "hi how are you"...nothing. I'm not sure I could be more specific than that, at least at the time of the conversation.
And did she AGREE?
Have you considered having her send him a no-contact letter?
