Man Overboard

[BobbiJo]

This is way too unbelievable. SMW you have done it again (with God of course).

Tonight I am talking with my husband about us, one last time... and people have said Why bother? He doesn't deserve it...too much has happened...

And then you posted that devotional. And as I was reading the devotional and then your posts after, I thought of the song "Praise You In the Storm"...and then...there it was in front of me.

Wow.

Blessings to you SMW. Good luck with the appointment tomorrow. I don't think you need to try and diffuse things. Your D9 has things she needs to say and they are things your DH needs to hear, even if he doesn't want to hear them...

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

D9s counselor tells me all the time "There are no coincidences in God." She is so right!

BobbiJo--

I read your thread late last night, but did not post. You are throwing the ring to Dan again, as I am for DH. Will they take it? We have no way of knowing. But God's ways are perfect and He will never lead us down a path that He will not walk with us.

You are right--I cannot diffuse this and I have to let D9 do this, for her. It is too important to her being able to move forward for me to step in and protect DH from himself again.

When I talked to my mom she said to me "You warned him of this last week." And she is right, I did. While I do not want to see her hurting, she has to deal with her emotions concerning her father in order to heal. I bottled mine for way too long and paid dearly for it.

My hands are raised, I am singing. God will bring this to completion in His time.

Liviog God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[mishka422]

Well, here's another one that immediately thought of "Praise You in This Storm". Casting Crowns is my favorite and that song has resonated so much with me. I used to sit and listen to it over and over and cry heartily. Now it just brings me a lot of comfort that God is there for us through the worst of times.

You are doing so well SMW! Keep it up!

[sandycay]

LOL and all seriousness aside..... I've been WAITING for you to title a thread with this one. I love the boat and water analogies.


I hear you singing from here!

Blessings,

[ernest88]

You are throwing the ring to Dan again, as I am for DH.

I'll caution both of you...be careful of throwing the life rings, they may just drag you down with them..

if I were you two..I'd throw em the anchors...but what do I know I'd let them either sink or swim..

you two know the drill and now is the time to "not start over"

so stay centered...emotionally...let them flounder

and another thing..this board is cycling again...lots of weird things happening and as you know the posters here tend to "try" things when this board cycles and sometimes cause their sitches to go backwards because of it..

[mishka422]

and another thing..this board is cycling again...lots of weird things happening and as you know the posters here tend to "try" things when this board cycles and sometimes cause their sitches to go backwards because of it..

Do you really think that the posters start making crap happen just because things slowed down for everyone? That would be pretty shallow and stupid wouldn't it. Now, if there is genuinely something to salvage, shouldn't they try?

[sandycay]

Mike,

I was thinking the same thing.

I like Mike.

[BobbiJo]

Mike,

I was thinking the same thing.

I like Mike.

I know this is SMW's thread, but SC, I thought you 'got' where I was coming from. In my case I am offering him the life preserver, but for me it will most likely be for the last time. I want to help lift him up, not go under with him. If he refuses help and continues to flounder, so be it!

[ernest88]

I think that when one person on here trys something and others read what they tried then we all automatically fall inot the trap of trying something....

hell Mish watch the board..when one sitch goes South..they all go south..Brain and I have talked about this many times...it's human nature I think..we think

hey, it looks like old Mike is having some success..i wonder if I try this or that if it might help my sitch...it ebbs and flows


the ones here who succeed truly detach and "let them go"..there have only been a couple I have seen or posted to personally..one is Gforce and another who reconciled but no longer posts...I talked to her in the alternate..she was a good friend to our group...she has had success....let's just say that sometimes even the worst locks can be removed from some boxes..

Mish..I'm saying...if ya let em go they may come back..if you don't they won't..want me to use your words against you?? LOL

[ernest88]

Mike,

I was thinking the same thing.

I like Mike.

I know this is SMW's thread, but SC, I thought you 'got' where I was coming from. In my case I am offering him the life preserver, but for me it will most likely be for the last time. I want to help lift him up, not go under with him. If he refuses help and continues to flounder, so be it!

BBJ..Im not cracking on you or SMW..I'm just saying use caution..I care about you both and don't want to see either one of you back in a bad spot emotionally..

ya gotta do what ya gotta do..

you two are not going to save them..they have tio have a want to save themselves..all you have to do is be open to love them unconditionally if they choose to return...