PM Thread #5 - Hope new plan works

[PositivelyMommy]

Hi Kev,

You bring so much to my situation, you just don't know. Please don't think that you would bring me down just because you are running on a low cycle!!!! Please please keep posting if you have time. I really appreciate it and look what you wrote today. It's wonderful!

Sorry abt the confusion, I need to define 'dress to kill', I meant it in the appropriate sense. We are seeing a counsellor, not going to a night club, so I will probably be wearing a nice sundress, not spandex mini. He he. I meant I will be looking fresh and happy and relaxed. That I will smell nice and look flushed with confidence. That is my goal.

Thanks also for the 'cheat' advice. You are right, I did forgive him too fast the first time, when I found out about the ONS. But then he did come down with a life-threatening illness right after so I didn't really delve deep into our emotions while he was in ICU. But that is not an excuse. Ijust think he was avoidant and I didn't want to dig more dirt. I guess, it was already messy and I didn't have what it took to deal with it.

And then I LOVE what you wrote about 'I will never rid him of guilt for what he's done but I can help him to live with it by being completly non-judgemental about it.' I will start this today and put it in action. I will remember this sentence for the rest of my life.

Thanks Kev.

Feel free to write me anytime, whether you are feeling up or down.