She has not scheduled a new appointment yet, as far as I know. During our last session, the MC said that she can now file insurance claims and said she would try and see if we could claim some of our costs. Turns out, our plan doesn't cover this kind of therapy, only from psychologists. The MC emailed me about that and I asked her if we could pay next time we come in. I also said that W said she would email her for a next appointment. MC said that was fine. When I had W on the phone yesterday, I told her all this and she said that that sounded good.
Thanks for the female perspective! Last summer our MC actually asked W if she felt emotionally connected to me and she said yes. Then the MC said that usually the desire for physical intimacy follows feeling emotionally connected. W also said around that time that she didn't really care to have sex ever again, she just didn't have any desire. Another thing she's said is that when we had sex, it felt like she was ML to her brother. To me, those things sound like she does feel emotionally connected to me, but somehow the desire for physical intimacy is not there and she does not know where it went or how to get it back. I think she thought the S would take the pressure off, by not being reminded of the lack of physical intimacy on a daily basis and then maybe it would return on its own. And the pressure did come off, but other pressures have now come into play, like financial ones that come with maintaining another household on her own. She's mentioned these things in her long email to me in Feb.
Originally Posted By: pearlharbr
Now the last thing I know how to fix and am working on that, but honestly I'm in no rush because I don't want the raging hormones to interfere with me figuring out what I want and if we can/will work things out. Maybe that's part of what's holding your W back.
This sentence triggered a new understanding of what the MC was saying in our session that I did not catch onto right away. I think MC was saying exactly what you say here. That W is having a lot of conflicting thoughts and feelings that need to be sorted and worked through before she can make an uninfluenced decision about what she really wants. Your perspective helped me see that much more clearly!
I have noticed that W is a lot more communicative with me the last month or so. As I said earlier, after our MC session, we made some tentative plans to do stuff together. Since then, she's asked if I still wanted to go see a movie with her this week and we're doing that tonight. We're going to a concert next Fri, which was planned for a while, but she's asked me to tell her the date again so she can put it in her agenda and not forget.
She also keeps making comments re her stopping the meds. Like after MC, we went to Barnes&Noble for coffee and she's reading some of the magazines, news from around the globe and other stuff in there. We walk out and she says: "I feel so out of touch with the world, it's like I have been in a cave for a couple of years!"
