Thanks, purple. Yeah, I'd like to carefully place that letter in several folks' "areas," 'cuz they really should know better; cut-off's are immature and extrememly dysfunctional. My SIL is a psychiatrist working with children for cryin' out loud--she especially ought to know better. Oh well.

Thanks for the thoughts--yes, I hope things continue on a healing trend.

M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012