Newcomer, want to keep my hope alive!

[iwantittowork]

I am no expert, bugwaterguy, but you may want to create a story for yourself in the Infidelity sections.

Also, Update your signature, like I have done with mine, with your basic information, and a link to your story, and you hopefully will get some more experienced DB's commenting on it..

As for the love languages stuff, I would not be buying her new things, that just looks like your trying to cling/persuade her to stay.

You should think about the DB Coaching as well, my first session I had was very well worth it.

You need to focus on you first right now, and get away from the resentment, depression, needy feelings, etc, as that will come across to your W, even if you say nothing.

Look at the "Act as If" as well, that has been a help to me, although it looks like I am on the fast track to separation right now..