So after our talk on Thursday about her having no doubt about the D we move to the weekend. No real talk between us except Sunday I was taking off work Monday to spend the day with the kids they didn't have school. So we're talking and I said I should have just kept them with me tonight so I didn't have to drive over in the morning...W says you could just stay here...That comment didn't register until about 11pm that night.
Well Monday I have the kids things are going great in the past I usually just left when she got home but this time I decided to make dinner and stay for dinner. She calls to tell me she on her way home and is kind of shocked I made dinner but happy.
During dinner she mentioned she hasn't gotten a card for her F bday. I told her to go after dinner since my S wanted me to play super Nintendo (yes that old game system, my W and I got when we first got married). So we're playing having a great time W comes home I'm ready to say bye when she says "when's my turn"...I was shocked she's never done this. Finally I say I've got to go. She kept sort of following me finding things to talk about.
Last night on the phone very very cold...
Here's my dilemma. She has mentioned before how she hates doing things alone and how if a decision has to be made I leave it up to her. So the making dinner I just didn't when in the past during the S I'd ask her if she wanted me to. Now I think part of the reason for being cold was she had a long day at work and she had to rush to get kids make dinner ect where the night before she didn't.
So when I did take a little control I got a great response in her actions not words where do I draw the line? Where is the line between telling her I'll do this and pursuing? I'm not going to do something like get off work early and surprise her by picking up the kids and making dinner or should I?
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
