Learning to Detach

[peacetoday]

K
Yes they withdraw after getting close
You are doing great though
I understand your fear about D
but dont bring up the word to your H
He is definitely unsure now and I doubt he is anywhere ready to make that move
most of these mlcer do not file immediately
they are too scared and on the fence about everything
mine did not file for over a year plus after bomb and he filed only after I told him too
so I wouldnt worry about that
it is a long process and you are moving thru it
the patience and the waiting is part of it
you can use this time to create the best M under the circumstances
which you are--you have been there for your H and no one could expect more from a spouse
you will heal though this process and have No regrets no matter what
about the active listening..that is a tough call
I dont think it would be a good idea to bring all your stuff to him
definitely listen and validate
maybe bring some lighter stuff on your part this time and see how that goies
this way he will trust you will not hammer him for his poor choices and OW ect
good luck
peace