I am amazed at your change in outlook towards your father. You are right, it is a gift (and I mean that in all its connotations). Your journey has been what you have made of it, and its inspiring to see all that you've done. You're turning out to be one special lady, my friend. As we've seen, not everyone takes the path with so much grace, introspection and learning...
(I AM coming for that cage! Please don't sell it!)