Sandi's in Piecing and it's getting better

[Hope4us]

There is one thing that's been bothering me through all this. It's the fact that she's had her ring off for over a year since all this started. I know I shouldn't push to have her put it on since she's in her confused state, but I guess I feel a bit insecure thinking that other men will see that and take that as an open invitation to ask her out.

I also have the nagging worry that to her she thinks she is single again. I've kept my ring on this whole time and used it as a point of focus when I would stray. I just wish she'd do the same. Did you take your ring off?

Mine too Stuck. It'll be two years in Sept that she took them off. In the last year she's said a couple of times she's got rings for her fingers, but still hasn't put them on. I suspect that's a big road block for her in that she feels if she puts them on that I'll think everything is fine, when in reality, it's not. I've kept my ring on the whole time save a couple month period when I was ready to file for D.

Obviously we know that a woman (or man for that matter) having rings on doesn't stop our spouses or OP's from doing what they're going to do.

I use her lack of wearing her wedding rings and the anniversary ring I got her for our 20th as a reminder that I need to keep the changes going. I'm not going to lie, it hurts like he**. But whether she wears them or not doesn't change the sitch.