I'll tell you what I do with my wife for visitation of Wee Man. It's agreed that I have him every Tuesday and Wednesday night. I also have him every second weekend. That's the only schedule of mine my W has or needs. She knows that I will be with my son on those nights. Any change from this schedule is arranged as much in advance as we can manage.
What I'm basically saying is that your wife doesn't need or deserve to know what you're doing on any night except those where you have the kids. If she tries to change those nights, make sure she has a good reason for it and make sure she thinks you always have plans on your free nights. If she has a good enough excuse for changing the nights you see your kids, tell her that you'll sort something out to rearrange your plans. Don't give in all the time though.
Well done on not rising to it this morning when you called the kids too. Trust me, the less you argue with her, the less she's going to try. By not rising to her challenges you are taking away her power as a bully.
It sounds to me like you're really starting to get this whole DB thing. Once you start seeing the patterns, it starts getting easier. Keep it up!
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
