WAW1 - Anticipation

[markhaving probs]

I called my children this morning (7.10am here) to ask them if they wanted anything specific for dinner. I know they are up at this time but my wife who was annoyed at me ringing so early said they were not up. Lo and behold they were up...I spoke to both of them to confirm what they wanted as I want to thoughtful to their needs. They told me what they wanted so now I know what their needs are.

When I initially spoke to my my wife when she picked up the phone she said to me "The trouble with you its overkill. I tell you when you didn't ring for two days and now you ring all the time (wrong, once a day to wish them goodnight), I've been telling you for years and years...." I had also written them each a letter hoping they had a nice weekend with me and praising them etc.

I maybe should have validated her, but I thought it was a bit rich considering she did not call them for two days over the weekend so I did not bother. Also, I did not let her draw me into an argument.

This reaction is exactly what PositivelyMommy said would happen now I am putting my children to the top of my priority list. I presume she is angry because of the fact I should have done this years ago.