Thursday may get kind of hairy. D9 has her weekly counseling appointment and DH is planning on attending it. Usually, i go back with her for her appointment, but I was not going to this week, with her dad there. After what she told D17, I am DEFINITELY not going back with her and DH is in for a storm that I cannot control.
Essentially, D9 is angry at her dad. She cannot understand why he left. She blames herself and the other kids, as well as DH and I and the fights we had right before he left. She is still hurt by what happened when he left for Michigan when he came home from deployment. She is sad all the time and does not know what to do about it. She is sad because her dad comes over all the time but is not living with us. She is sad because she wants her dad to come home. She is mad that I have changed and Daddy has not. She is mad that Daddy is being selfish and does not see that she and the others are missing him and being together all the time.
This is the kind of pain and damage that I was talking about on my last thread. I have consistently told the kids that their dad loves them, that I love them. Despite my best efforts, the kids are still hurting and apparently worse than even I thought they were.
he has always been the closest to D9 and she is pulling away from him. Hopefully she will be able to get this stuff off her chest and get back on track with her therapy. I also hope he does not think I put her up to it. SIGH
I am trying t reach the counselor ahead of time to forewarn her about the fact that DH is coming to counseling. That was before I heard about the other things. I will need to tell her about this, too. I only hope that the counselor is able to difuse some of this.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
