What is the point of forcing conflict? To resolve and move forward, we have to get to a place where we both see the M moving forward. If for now that means she keeps an EA/PA from me, and I let us build up again from scratch, how is that wrong?
I know it may not be a popular thought, especially with someone like you who seems to think that EA/PA is the worst thing that can happen, but look at it this way - I was not satisfying a need. She had that need filled. I realize it and begin to fill the need again, no need for OP.
The reality is an EA/PA is not the hard part. Hell, we both were with someone before we got married, and many people get together/separate/get together again before marriage. The hard part is of course the betrayal and dishonesty. THAT is hard, but unfortunately at this point in our relationship it just really isn't the time to discuss it. We need firmer ground before we go there.
I appreciate your differing point of view, and who knows, perhaps at some point I will get there too, but for right now, I know what I want - I want a long and happy life with my W. It is just time to rebuild it one brick at a time.
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