My mindset is getting firmer with the idea that my situation isn't the end of the world. I still have down moments, but the highs seem to be much more prevalent. I had the best nights sleep that I have had since the bomb last night and I woke up with high spirits.
Is it normal/healthy to develop this type of mindset?
I agree with Robx. It's standard script. Might be in their DNA. Doesn't mean it doesn't have some truth in it, though does it? You're going and getting an MBA and changing jobs creates some stress and some away time, right? Did you grow apart at that time? Be honest. I'm not saying you did it alone. I'm not saying that you did. I'm asking the question. I see some truth in what she said, but I also see that she is trying to justify her reasons.
Best thing for you is to live well. Feel good about you. You cannot change her. Be kind to her even if she doesn't deserve it. She may be just generally unhappy, but that will eventually pass. While you are going through this and apart, think about what you could have done differently. Think about what is your part in this. Think how, in your next relationship - whomever that is with - you would do those things differently. Change you.
Once you figure those things out, is it really too late to try again? To reset? You'll have to figure that out at the time you get there, but you need to know that she has things in her head she has to work out as well. I have personally heard many of those that you describe during this time. I think many of us have. It's almost as if we're watching them work through their own feelings in front of us.
Know that you cannot help her in that process except to patiently give her time. You should listen to the people telling you to be careful talking to the MIL. That's dangerous ground because if things work out, she'll know too much. Consider telling her that you and W are working on some issues. Don't alienate them. Be careful what you tell friends as well.
WAS' watch like hawks. They'll notice as you change. They'll notice as you talk to people.
Be good to you and work on you. You have some things to work on from the sound of it but most of it is in her head and how she is dealing with life in general. You have to give that time in my opinion.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
