Yep, you got it, Jeff. I consider it offering a hand to a man who has fallen down. He may surprise us all, and take it. Or he may brush it away and then, down the road, try to reach for it again. Or he may just slap it away and curse me for offering. Who knows? I just want him to know that even if he thinks he has fooled the world, he hasn't.
That was actually the only time he was really all that moved on our Retrouvaille weekend. When we had to write on the topic "Do I see you for the real you? And if I do, do I accept that person?"
I described who I thought he was inside (wounded, angry, still that hurt little boy)and he cried, he said he was surprised but yes, I did see through his cover and see the real him.
So if I am right about this he may be amazed that I can tell...or he may be defensive and in denial or even admit it but say it has no bearing on our situation. (Which by the way would be total crap, living a double life affects every part of your life)
Anyway long story short, he will 'hear' me, or he won't. But I will know I tried. It is the last stone in the 'leave no stone unturned' approach I have taken. I will be able to close the door knowing I did absolutely everything I could. So I won't be happy with the outcome, but I will know I did my best.
