Thank you so much for seeing the reality of what i was doing1 I was beginning to think that I had a hidden agenda that I did not know about!!!
S4H--yes, that is exactly what I was trying to convey. DH was an attentive dad that spent tons of time with his kids--playing with them, helping with homework, reading them stories, taking them to the park, etc. Now, he is inattentive, distant, and leaves them at the drop of the hat. They feel abandoned, especially D9. He is stepping up to the plate. I am just hoping that it did sink in and this is not a temporary measure and he pulls back and dumps them again.
Phoenix--
Thank you! To not be myself, the woman I have become, would be disingenuous and serves no purpose. I will not live a lie in order to appease my husband's guilt. I am a Christian, woman, wife, and mother--even when I drifted from the church for a few years, I identified myself as a Christian and tried to live my life accordingly. All I have done is reclaimed the faith I had lost and built on it.If DH is guilty, tht is his emotion to deal with. As I told him, it is up to me to choose whether I want to act or react what someone else says or does. If he feels guilty, maybe he needs to examine why he feels guilt. If he feels guilt, perhaps he needs to reevaluate his life. That is not for me to decide. I was sticking to the facts of the situation.
HM--
I am also trying to preserve his relationship with his children, having BTDT with regards to a D, I do not want my kids to suffer the way I did due to an inattentive, absent parent.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
