My Sailor is Back-but not Home

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

I am getting too frustrated to continue on here today. Once again,

I DID NOT SAY WHAT I DID TO USE THE KIDS AS MOTIVATION FOR DH TO COME HOME.

I want him to understand that the kids are hurting. I do not want him to dismiss their feelings as unimportant, like my dad did to me and my sister. I want him to take into consideration that choices like he made in going to Michigan right after deployment are psychologically damaging to the kids.

While I DO want my DH to come home, I DO NOT want this selfish pr!ck back.

D9 intends to be open and honest with her father at counseling this week--in a secure environment where he can not make her feel intimidated. Her words, not mine. The kids are afraid to make him angry or hurt his feelings. If he changes his mind, he is going to have to show ME real effort, not lip service. The kids deserve a full time dad and I deserve a committed husband, not one that needs to be committed.

Living God's blessings with grace and digntiy~
SMW