Well I did end up talking to H a bit more. He immediately acts defensive, but I tried to talk to him from the friend perspective about things that he had already brought up with me.
I think I am going to completely back off now. I said a couple of things I felt I needed to say to be at peace. (eventho there were a hundred more things I wanted to say and ask) I hope he really thinks about what was said and takes it to heart.
H keeps saying about our lives are completely separate now and always will be. I don't think, no matter how good of a person I am, that it will make any difference for him. He seems to have shut the door so completely and so quickly. He did keep talking about how he wants to protect me and do right by me and make sure I'm taken care of. While some of it is kind, I don't think it in anyway has other meaning.
He kept saying how my idea of what is right is different from his idea of what is right and that we won't agree. He doesn't see divorce as necessary as he said its only a piece of paper.
He said we are at this point where we have our own lives but still have one foot in the past so it is hard.
I don't want to give up on everything yet, but he keeps saying so clearly that its over, there doesn't seem to be any confusion.
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09
