You HAVE that. Just dealing with an emotionally charged situation like what you have with dignity and patience (i.e. not falling apart or blowing up), is having a strong backbone. I understand this is still a process and sometimes you probably feel like falling apart, or you'll busy and loose yourself in daily activities without really examining your emotions.... BTW, are you in any type of individual therapy besides the Separation/Divorce group? Having someone neutral (trained therapist) to talk with, and to work on personal growth goals with, might be helpful.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
