Yep John maybe it is just as much for me as it is for him, for me to get it off my chest.
And maybe in Canada is has not reached the epic proportions it has here in the states, but more marriages are trashed over porn addictions than over drug or alcohol addictions. Oprah, Dr. Phil, Dateline, all the 'shows' have run stories on it. And some people say it is no big deal. And you know what, I suppose it is like drinking in that regard. I can go out and have 1 margarita at dinner and be happy. No big deal. But tell that to the woman whose husband is a raging alcoholic.
Maybe there are men who can go one a year to the gentleman's club with his clients and it is no big deal. But there are men who have lost their jobs, lost their homes even b/c of the time/money they spent on porn.
We can agree to disagree on that, it's okay. Not everyone sees it the same. But as a follower of Jesus I know that for me, it was wrong when I went with him back in college and it is wrong for him to give other women the time/attention/desire he should be giving to his wife.
And I am okay with knowing that I have considered my husband my best friend. I made a lifelong commitment to love him unconditionally. It does not mean I have to stay married to him, b/c of the adultery I am free to divorce. But I will still care about him as the man I thought he was and as the father of my children.
Not everyone sees it the same. But as a follower of Jesus I know that for me, it was wrong when I went with him back in college and it is wrong for him to give other women the time/attention/desire he should be giving to his wife.
