Why, song, tell us all why....right now....she should come back to you?
Good question, here are my thoughts. 1) Because she made a vow of 'for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, good times and bad, 'til death do us part' 2) Because our children will be better off in a two parent home than a single parent home. 3) Because the solution to a problem isn't running away from it or separating yourself from it, but by working through it. She hasn't given our M that opportunity. 4) Because I have made lasting changes to issues she had with me (weight, health, family priorities)
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Your attitude toward her is still palpably controlling...passive aggressive and obstructive to her and belligerant to her towards your children.
I don't understand why you say that, could you explain?
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Although I agree with you that I wouldn't assist her in....facilitate...the divorce, etc...have you really imbued her with feelings of I love you...you can go...door is open?
Yes, I do believe so. She is gone, has been for 7 months, and though I don't say it, my actions do demonstrate that I love her. I have given her what she asked for, time and space.
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Doesn't sound that way from your posts. I still read anger, resentment, etc.
Yes, I have moved from only feeling self pity and hopelessness to anger and resentment. I thought that was a natural progression in the process of grieving. But, I do not display anger or resentment when I see or talk to her, I keep things positive, upbeat, light and friendly. I may come across angry or resentful in my posts here, and that's because this is one of the only places (other than talking to my mom or brother) that I can share and release those feelings.
I do appreciate your advice FIB, and I'm trying to wrap my head around it.
