1)If it weren't for this issue, I would not be going to dinner with him and the kids tonight. Once everything is out in the open, if nothing changes I will cut way way back on the family time stuff. For example MIL just called to invite me to dinner Sunday night for mother's day. I told her the kids would be there no problem. I don't plan to go myself though...I will go see my own mom.
2)Sandy, I agree with you. I didn't mention it last night b/c the text thing was too impersonal. If I could do over, I would have said nothing last night at all but I guess i had one of those epiphanies and I didn't want to wait to tell him...
But I do feel that after 17 years and two kids, he means too much to me to walk away without addressing the issue. As I reflected last night and this morning several things popped up that were always 'there' but I never saw them for what they were, things that tell me that this problem has been going on since we started dating (16 yrs old) if not sooner than that...which is ironic b/c in our deepest discussions he would say "I have been miserable since I was a teenager, that is when I started dating you, so it must be you". Well, that is when his relationship with porn started, too...
