LBS Need help and support #3

[faithisbelieving]

Song...I will tell you a very simple way to make the pain go. Stop fighting something you can't change and grieve the loss.

You can't shake hands with a closed fist

We men are fixers. Leaky pipe...got it. Weeds..no problem. Toilet flapper valve need replacing...done.

It is not in our genetic makeup to be comfortable without being able to fix.

But...you can't. You CANNOT CHANGE HER NOR CONTROL HER.

Practice makes permanent, not perfect. Doing the wrong thing with increased vigor just hurts you harder and faster, one of the hardest lessons for many people to learn.

Acceptance is difficult. When you finally let go..grieve the loss and release your death grip on your wife....you may finally find that you either:

• find peace
• find time to focus on yourself and make changes
• realize you are still smothering her and pushing her away
• might even find that she finds you attractive again

I guarantee you...GUARANTEE YOU...that you have ZERO chance..if continue this way. Your attitude toward her is still palpably controlling...passive aggressive and obstructive to her and belligerant to her towards your children.

song...why...why would she want to come back to you as you are?

Why?

Although I agree with you that I wouldn't assist her in....facilitate...the divorce, etc...have you really imbued her with feelings of I love you...you can go...door is open?

Doesn't sound that way from your posts. I still read anger, resentment, etc.

Why, song, tell us all why....right now....she should come back to you?

FIB