I`m actually a whole LOT calmer than I was. I`m so glad I didn`t rise to the bait when H tried to take over the master bedroom. And I didn`t talk about that incident with him at all(a 180 for me).
Everyone tells me I`m looking heaps better. I`m paying more attentio to me and that has boosted my self confidence. My kids are happier. I realise that maybe they don`t see their Dad as a brooding monster like I do;he can be happier around them than he is around me.I am just so glad I`ve made a firm decision never to criticize him but to say only positive things about him.
I didn`t go to H`s doctor for as Jack 3 Beans pointed out I`m not his mother and yes, H would be mad if he knew I went. Insead I`ve left dinner for him. No not presented on a plate, but there`s always something in the pot for him if he wants it(he eats later than us) and I`m not insulted either if he ignores it.
Progress on his part? V little. He did say no, thanks when I offered him a pancake last night. Well, the thanks bit was progress.
He chose not to ask me to come down to his family gathering with the kids. But that was a plus for me as I was glad of the rest!
He is looking better-not as tired I think. But hey, I`m not his mother!
