Things dont look or feel good because you are not detached. Once you are detached whatever she says or does wont have any effect on you. You are worried she is pissed so you are not detached.
When there is so much anger on her end nothing you can do will be right or helpful in her eyes. Go as dim as possible. That is not to punish her but to create space so you can detach. No sense adding more fuel to the fire. If she wants to be pissed then let her be pissed but you dont have to be the object of her anger if you remove yourself from that equation. Let her deal with that all on her own, its nothing you can fix or change right now and trying to do that will only push her further away.
I'm probably not as detatched as I want to be, but I do feel like I'm doing better. Some days are better than others, and some times during the day are better than other times during the day. I want to continue to detatch. We've had no contact at all for 5 days, and I'm OK with that for right now. I want to get completely lovingly detatched.
I agree that there is so much anger there on her end that nothing I say or do is gonna be right or helpful. Explain to me, please, what you mean by 'going as dim as possible'? I want to do whatever is necessary to detatch. I don't want to add any fuel to the fire. I really appreciate your insight. Thanks.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
