Hi HM! You sound so calm, and at peace. I am glad you have found that, and the grace to forgive your XH. He may not have reaped what he has sown in his hypocrisy and abandonment, YET, but time will tell. You did your best, and you can hold your head up high.
Go HM and D13!!!!! Woohoo!!!!
I don't know if I did my best; that will require some reflection and hindsight. It just didn't seem that there was much of anything I could do. Now I need to find out who I am after 19 years of loving a narcissist and trying to be worthy of his love (and ultimately, I wasn't!--and that's just fine). No more asking "but what about me" in that still, small voice in the back of my mind. I can rediscover my own needs and work on meeting them, and on being a good mom, and no longer feel inadequate about practically everything.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
