WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 8

[confusedinpa]

I had a good session with my therapist. We talked more about getting in touch with my feelings and she thought I was in a good spot mentally. She thinks that I've detached very quickly. I told her about how we're still talking about chit chat frequently. She thinks my wife is still confused as now that she's moved out, she isn't feeling what she's expected. I told her of my plan to wait about 4 weeks and see where she's at. My therapist was supportive of that but I'm not sure

My wife called last nite for the boys to say goodnite. After the boys were done talking she got on the phone. She talked about how my youngest was still struggling and had thrown up. While she was on the phone he threw up again. After she cleaned up she called me back and chatted some more as well as my youngest.

After a couple of minutes, I heard my oldest having some issues in the background. I told her it sounded like she has to take care of something so I told her that I was going let her go

I'm still struggling with how I don't see how we're progressing to save the marriage. It seems like we are settling into a routine where we stay seperate/divorce.

Perhaps I'm still being too available and I'm seeing her too much. Its tough with all the things that are going on with the kids. I don't want to miss things with the kids. Or should I?

Any thoughts?