Anyway, to share another realization, this morning I was thinking and I recall that Michele said that we should not pressure our WAS to come back to the R, but I think that pressure is a no no, but heat is good. I mean heat things up a bit without comfortation, don't have our WAS living comfy with how things are. At least this is true for my sitch. I have don't want to pressure my H, I want to heat things up and make him uncomfortable/uneasy so that he can seek out a way to cool down one way or another. Just a thought....
Presssure is a huge no-no. "Heat" can be good, but it must be indirectly applied. Let him suffer the consequences of his OWN, self-induced heat, rather than any heat directly applied by you.
Trust me, if you look hard enough, there'll be many, MANY opportunities. In fact, if you look backwards, you'll probably see where you've RELEASED the heat and the pressure of his own consequences in many cases. You've rescued.
