WAW1 - Anticipation

[markhaving probs]

Update: On the call she made to me before lunch, she still wants to know my schedule for the week. I am trying to be abit 'elusive' so that she does not know where I am all the time. I do train on Thursdays as these are circuit classes where I meet up with my friends. I used to do swimming on a Tuesday but I have now got a Monday class I can go to which means I can circuit train as well. When my wife asked me to have my son on Tuesday she said "oh, what about your swimming?" I said I have changed it to another night without telling her which one. She, for some reason did not believe me and asked me what night? I was vague and told her I am re-arranging my schedule at the moment. The thing here is I do not want to be difficult, vague or un-communatitive as this is what partially got me here in the first place.

She then changed the subject and said I should try and take the children away in half-term or in August when she returns from the first summer holiday without me (that is going to be really hard). I told her I do not know my whereabouts in regards to work, but I will see if I can schedule something closer to the time.

This is where anticipation is difficult as I maybe should have had a script ready for her when she asked me, but it is so difficult to try and anticipate things so far in advance, and without a job at the moment it is difficult to plan anything.

I feel she is still trying to control my life by wanting to know my weekly whereabouts and trying to test me on my anticipation skills, where hopefully in the holiday case I have not gone back to square one with not anticipating what is going to happen in the summer. I am now thinking how I could have handled it, but when you are in conversation it is difficult to think on your feet. Anything I might suggest in a week or to will be seen as re-active rather than pro-active anticipation.

I hope I dealt with my weekly schedule correctly as I do not ask her what her schedule is. As we are seperated it is none of her business and only shows to me how controlling she likes to be, it certainly isn't the case she is concerned about my whereabouts and who I might be with. Also, I did not want to get drawn into an argument as I know she would probably want one.