My Sailor is Back-but not Home

[hoosiermama]

I gotta weigh in here just a bit.

I don't see this as SMW "guilting" her husband at all. It sounds to me like she gave him a nicely self-differeniated dose of reality. "This is the effect your behavior is having on your children." It's entirely too easy for WAS's, while lost in a fog, to completely disregard the consequences of their behavior on others for whom they are responsible. I know, mine has continually done the same. This has nothing to do with manipulating him to come back by using the children! It's simply hard, cold fact that his children are struggling, they were so looking forward to their father coming back because they need and love him--and when he returned, he chose to spend his leave with OW and HER children. Completely irresponsible. The fact that he understood that SMW "must really love him" is testimony that he understands her standing for her marriage and communicating that to DH, as well as seeing that she is setting some pretty darn clear boundaries.

I think it was brilliantly communicated, and undoubtedly involved some divine inspiration. Good for you, SMW! He's hearing you; his heart is being softened. Who knows if that will continue or if he will harden his heart against the truth again. But for now, stay the course!