WAW/Affair Exposed - Advice? #3

[DCBHM]

Walked past W this morning. I made it a point to smile and say "Good morning." and she just didn't break her pace and half-smiled and said "Hey."

D1 was doing okay, she was happy to see me, but she seemed extremely tired. I picked her up and gave the daycare worker some goody bags my aunt had put together for her birthday. Things like little cookies, a rubber duck, and a spoon for each of the children.

D1 just sort of lay on the floor and cried a little bit because she was tired. I held her for a bit and she put her head on my shoulder.

Now that we are past D1's birthday, I'm starting to wonder if things will start to change now, especially for the upcoming psych eval hearing. Her attorney has got to know that I can't be making this stuff up because I put too many details, dates, times, etc. in my affidavit.

And I focus on the BPD stuff, and I'd be surprised if she doesn't have it. Read this morning:

Borderlines wreak so much chaos, drama, havoc, and often abuse, in relationships. When they try to relate to someone intimately the stress creates the rise of a myriad of false self defenses that push others away. Most with BPD have not learned how to regulate or modulate what are dysregulated emotions associated with the flux of distance and closeness that is part of healthier relationships.

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Often this propels borderline rage which is at the heart of the borderline need to punish and seek revenge or to wish to annihilate the significant other in his or her life, as a means of defending against the loss of self through other.

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Intimacy with most people who have Borderline Personality Disorder (until and unless they have significant successful therapeutic intervention) is not possible in healthy adult mutual and reciprocal ways.

So the percentage chance that I'll have any sort of meaningful relationship with W is remote if she has this. She will need to seek therapy on her own - for herself. And she isn't going to do that without being faced with more loss.