Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Sandi,
Thanks for finding me here and posting my link.

Sandi and Peace,
I appreciate any thoughts, advice, etc. you give. MC has said he's afraid to push H too much in session b/c he is afraid he won't come back. Heck of a thing when the C realizes how manipulative and deep into MLC that H is and isn't sure how to proceed with MC. I feel like H would be likely to at least work on M if he was sure OW would not work out. It's EA, not PA and she's married. She was abused as a teen and has a lot of baggage, says she loves her H and wants to be friends (as of emails discovered 3/11). But now she's meeting him outside of work, so who knows. He's manipulating her just like everyone else. It's taking all my self control not to contact her, out them to everyone, etc.

I did get a DB reaction last night that made me chuckle. H had emailed me and told me he would call when he was on the way to his extended stay place. He called around 7:40pm on my cell and said "are you not at home?" - sounded miffed. Nope, I'm NOT sitting at home waiting for your call dude! I was very pleasant on the phone (disussing scheduling of kids, etc.) but did not launch into any other conversation. I have mixed feelings about that. One of his complaints is that we don't have anything in common, nothing to talk about, don't have fun together, etc. So when he doesn't intiate a conversation outside scheduling, should I do so or should I just get off the phone?

I'm looking for good 180 ideas and also for information on boundaries setting for MLCers. Any suggestions?