Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

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Sorry you find yourself here
Im not sure I have exactly the answers you need but I will sahre some of my experiences with my MLC H
In my case, my XH also was having an A at time of bomb, she was 26 at that time, either D or M im not sure
he denied OW and we too went to MC, but it didnt help
Mine said all the same things to me
and he was staying out nightly till 2,3 or 4 am
I didnt know about OW, I suspected but I realized or felt there was nothing I could do
H was leaving and he was shutdown from me for many months until he left
For a time , he would leave the room, if I walked in
so sad..I db pretty good I guess
and we became friends,,I tried to validate him and thanked him for any help he gave for me or kids
He still movewd out, but would visit 4x aweek and we were friendly
I only found out about OW a few months ago...wow 2 years later
he is still with her living together..she is 28
so I confrointed him about her, he admitted it
I thought he would chose me,,but he remains loyal to her
he has also distanced from kids
It is hard
we have to take the extra load..be the mom and dad
therapy for you will help
let him go
try to validate his feelings,,like He says I am unhappy in the M
I hear you are unhappy
vent here
I probably would tell the MC about the A and see waht they suggest
but it probably wont help especially if your H is in beyong return with her as many of these mlcers are
peace