...and I dont know what has happened to him, but something has. I said that Venus was again squaring Pluto exact this weekend (2nd/3rd May).. so another turning point.

So.. good timing.. his oldest bmf wife J just phoned me !! She said ALOT of things. He has said to BMF and another MF (the older guy he golfs with, a sort of father figure...

- he loves me, he wants to be with me, I am the one for him
- he is very very stressed, got his 'pants in a knot' as he has to finish with Helen. Her H told her, he is badly stressed right now, in a real state about it, as they work together.
- she said the overall message is we are getting back together, I asked her whats stopping him, she said.. she has heard from MF that he did say that he is still worried

- ...basically, he told MF, he is worried things will go back to how they were before (he's NEVER discussed this with me, how things were and how he felt about it, why he left, nor how he would want it to be different. But J said, he is a sociable guy and its not your fault you were getting ill alot, but he couldnt cope with it and that you never went out together). She also said, astutely, but you cant change who you are deep down and cant be expected to go out all the time, but, its just that he didnt cope at that time, after the death of his Dad. J said she hopes he has learnt in the past 18 months he NEEDS to talk to me.

So this doesnt surprise me, it classic.. this is exactly what the Dbing mantra says!.. EVEN if you make changes, the WAS doesnt trust the changes, OR needs lots of time to see and trust that the changes are real and will stick - which is exactly why I was so worried to be caught out, at home mid morning.

- he said that it was too hard when we moved to Cornwall, so soon after his Dad died and being here, no friends and then I bought the flat and we did that up and J said he basically couldnt cope with the stress.

- J said, in the past 2 weeks, EVERYONE back home is saying he is coming back to me, that we will get back together, because that is the message he is giving to everyone

- he desperately wanted to talk to BMF this weekend, her H, but the only time they had was Sunday afternoon, but H had his D with him, so they couldnt really talk. Eventhough her H wouldnt tell J what my ex had said, when MF said, they are going to be back together soon, BMF just smiled at her and didnt deny it.

- J said, unusually for a bank holiday weekend, my ex left on Sunday back to Cornwall. I know he didnt do that to see her, because he wants to end it.. so J wonders if he came back specifically to end it with her!

Personally I thought, yes, as it was 2nd/3rd May when I said those 2 dates were important, that it was Venus square Pluto and that normally favoured me, in the pattern, and not her (wierd I know, but I have all the dates).

She said.. to just give him time and be his supportive friend in the meantime, just drop him the occassional light, friendly text and wait and see. She feels certain we WILL get back together, but he cant think straight right now as he is dreading having to dump Helen because its so much harder with them working together.