so i tell her its just about done and amaya loves it...
She says "Did u get the rubber stuff (we talked about putting shredded tire down for that play area but no one has it and its pretty expensive to get it shipped here) or the fence? (talked about putting the fence up to keep the dogs out of there but seeing as i have given up two of my dogs...) And can i have a pic soon?
then she says "and whats the deal with the dogs?"
I dont get it, why is she all of a sudden concerned with stuff we talked about prior to the bomb...? and why does she even want a pic of a place she left behind...? Am i making headway or is she just stringing me along...?
I understand she is out of town in training and i motivaited her to start her classes to do something with her life but d*mn... as of right now there isnt an us, there is just a me and my D... I want there to be, but she has made no changes to the fact that she wants to go and yet I'm asked to keep being the good husband to keep taking care of her responsibilties... for her to "supervise" (which normally i wouldnt mind i'd rather her be happy with it the first time) the projects at the home she says she is not coming back to... as my thread is titled im soooo lost... I havent answered any of them yet im trying to figure whats best to proceed...
And thanks burt for the advice once again i dont know what i would be doing right now if i didnt have people like you and PD to support and advise me.
So i went ahead and half a** answered my W about her texts...
I just told her that "noobdy in town has the rubber stuff so i found some online I just don't know what color I want to get yet. I talked to the supervisor at the pound he said they will keep the dogs till th 15th to give me or them time to find a home for them and he will call me if they arent adopted by the 15th to find out if I want to kennel them there for a day s they can start the time over to allow them more time to get adopted."
But i did not say if i would send her a pic of the new playground or if i would go take care of her college stuff for her...
I really am not sure whats going on now... She knows how i am she knows i cant be happy right now regardless of what i show her. i cant believe she had the balls to ask me after just a week of dropping the bomb to take care of her stuff for her or want to know what is going on, in what is now Mine and my D's house...
D wanted to talk to W no answer. She called back 30mins later and asked if i had called i told her ya D wanted to talk to her but she didnt anymore she said ok and i told her i was trying to get her to bed i would talk to her later...
Accidently dialed her number right after we hung up (have a touch screen phone and tapped her name in call log) she called back 30mins later and asked if i had called again i said i accidently tapped her name and she said ok then and i said bye...
So apparently I didnt make any headway (just wishful thinking i guess) She just opened up an account using maden name got the email in our email box. (dont think she did it to get to me) so....
ok just got the normal goodmorning text from the W at 0520 but it said...
W: Goodmorning, u didnt give me a pic of the swingset
I was thinking about texting back saying "goodmorning, I got some finishing touches to do to it then ill send you a pic. just curious though why do you want one?"
Ag, are you ready for the conflict that will arise from an answer like that? Use the 24 or 48 hour rule: if you still want to send that reply after you've chewed on it for that length of time, then go right ahead.
I would just ignore it and send the pic when you are done. Remember that GAL and detaching doesn't mean that you need to become an insensitive asshat. Just curtail your replies and don't initiate contact.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
