Glad to hear you seem to be doing a lot better with your efforts in DBing.
I can see your dilemma about Wednesday night. Your wife getting your son to ask if he can stay over is quite a low move. I think you have to see this as a boundary. I know you want to see your kids as much as possible but your wife needs to know she can't use you in this way. I think you need to tell her that it isn't acceptable to get your son to ask you if they can stay. Don't make it an argument but make it completely clear to her that you have to have a life too. If it's something you arrange between yourselves in advance, all well and good. I think we have to be flexible with these things.
As to whether you take your kids to stay on Wednesday, that's something you'll have to decide for yourself. Obviously you don't want them feeling that nobody wants them. On the other hand, you don't want your W to keep using this strategy. If you discuss this with your W, don't let her get the upper hand by telling you that you should be thankful for the chance to spend time with you kids. I know this will be hard for you and I wish you luck. The main thing here is to protect your kids' feelings. Sorry I can't be more help.
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
