WAW1 - Anticipation

[markhaving probs]

I have question. I have asked this before but I never really got a definitive answer. My wife got my son to ask me if he and my daughter could stay over with me after I give them my dinner on Wednesday. I know my wife got my son to ask me as it pulls more on my heart strings, she also knew I have a football night out planned with some friends.

In her selfish WAW mode she clearly wants me to have the children overnight so that she can spend the night out with OM. I feel angry this is the case as it fuels her affair, on the other hand I so want to spend as much time with my children as I can. The only reason I had them stay over last week was the fact I am out of work at the moment, so it is easy for me to let them sleep over and then I can take them to school the following morning. I think we need to keep them to the schedule we had agreed - every other weekend and dinner every Wednesday. Last week my wife used the old 'lets use the children to get my own way' trick by saying I have the opportunity to spend time with them but I chose not too. This is totally unfair and very hurtful. I cannot believe she is using the children like this, even if she is in WAW state.

I can easily cancel my night out but I also do not want to feel like a glorified babysitter for my wife.