Renee, When I refer to the "script", it's what they all say when they walk away from a marriage and/or relationship. It doesn't matter whether it's mlc or waw. I recommended a book to you either on this thread or the other one called "The Script". I would suggest you contact your local library to see if they have the book on hand. The book was shown on Oprah's show a year or so ago and believe me, it fits a large majority of the behaviors that all people who leave a relationship exhibit.
Renee, I think you have an understanding of mlc, but I do not think you fully understand what the crisis is about and how long it takes, etc. I think you need to read more on depression to better understand what the mlc is about.
How long will the ow see the new and improved h? That all depends on him. You do realize that some people can live a lie for a very long time? Some people can change over night and keep the lie going until the day they die. Again, it's all up to your xh as to how long the new and improved him stays in the running.
If you look at various subjects in Michelle's listing of forums, you will see one for walkaways. You may want to go over there and surf for a bit. Also, do a google and see what you find. Check out other boards on the net. I've been a member of at least 4 different boards for a long time. You do not need to stay on just one board...knowledge is power.
Also, you need to take 30 minutes out of your day today and start checking into some professional help. Thirty minutes will not ruin your day and you might be surprised at what you discover when you start making a few phone calls. It's time to start thinking about find help for yourself so that you can see the light of day and come to realize that you are going to be okay whether he comes back or not. This is your time, not his, so pick up that phone and make some calls.
What boards Snodderly, if you dont mind me asking?
