My Sailor is Back-but not Home

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Also, I am yet to see a sitch on these boards restored through the power of prayer alone

I'm not sure what you have not seen Ali. IMHO, my sitch was saved through prayer. Had I not had Jesus on my side, boy, I sure wouldn't have my husband beside me today.


SMW, I read thru the whole convo you had. woah. that was even more than what you told me. Now, normally I would not be condoning that forceful of a conversation, however, looking at the impact afterwards, there does not seem to be any repercussions. The reason I am not for all that, is because of the guilt you place upon his head. I know that you want him to stop hurting the kids, and I know that Bob came home only for the kids first, and then God restored his and Barbara's M, but I believe that your H needs to come home for you. as well as my H. I do not believe that we need to guilt our spouses into coming home.. not that it was your intention. I know you were trying to get him to see the hurt that his choices are causing them to go through. This is why he kept looking at the ground, and then saying he had to go, and saying he couldn't go to the meeting with pastor. It is too great for him to deal with. He is weak right now.

Now, I'm not totally against your convo...(just part of it), and I totally understand, and you did well keeping calm and all that. NOW, don't do it again. What was very good, is the fact you brought up your mistake about putting the kids first. That is good to show him that you understand your mistakes. Now he gets to watch and see if you have changed and fixed your mistakes. He still needs that validation. The reason he is here is from some sort of pain. Granted, he has caused an incredible amount of pain on all of you, but it doesn't mean he is not hurting.

Your doing so well though, and I am very proud of you. God has a wonderful life planned for you both. I can't wait for those days that you can celebrate the M that he saved and is already saving!