I called for D and XW answered the phone as she was out walking the dog. What happened next floored me!
First she told me that she had broken up w/BF and explained why. He had been kind of crappy w/her and she then said "that was a big reason why I was so angry toward you...that and I had to work through some things."
She continued to say she'd found a new therapist who was "much, much better than my last one" and this therapist has her working through things in her past.
Anyway, the shocking part is she APOLOGIZED to me. She said "I'm sorry for being angry at you. I'm sorry that we haven't gotten along because of how I treated you. There are a ton of things I could apologize to you for, but I am sorry and I just hope you can forgive me or move past this. Please know I am not angry any more. I've been able to work through it."
Where was this therapist when I was still married? I could have saved my marriage if she had someone to get her to look inward sooner. In any event, it is better late than never, right?
She even said she's "no longer angry over the pensions" and for us to "just go ahead and get it done." I'll be sending her some stuff in the next few days to capitalize on this and get this finalized once and for all.
So, it was a shocker. I've been waiting to hear her apologize, but I do have to say it is bitter-sweet. I do feel a little vindicated, I guess, but I also am saddened by her apologizing NOW instead of when we could have saved our family.
I hope this work will continue and she'll keep going forward and be happy for her and for Grace.
