I took a deep breath to keep from crying, and said, “DH, I am willing to make every effort to work things out between us. I believe, in my heart that with hard work and help from God, we can make this marriage work and be even better than it was before. But, I am realistic enough to know that I can not control what you do and say, I can only control me. But know this, I will fight you tooth and nail to protect my kids from living with the pain and hurt and sense of abandonment I have lived with for the past 25 years. He said, I know you will. I said know this, too. As much as I want us to work things out, I will not live in a marriage with three people. The kids and I will get along without you and I am prepared to cut you out of our lives to protect them from being hurt any more than they already have been. There will always be a place in our lives for you, but we have to get on with our lives for now.
WAY TO GO SMW!!!!!! DH heard you loud and clear just let him squirm with his actions now. Stay patient. I nominate SMW for DBer of the year! You handled it! Cheers Coach
I figured Greek already gave you all the gory details. I am leaving him alone. He did not leave until almost 10 tonight. We had some bad storms and waited to give the kids a bath. He was quiet. He took D( to get her swimsuit and told her that he was going to her counseling appt on Thursday. I definitely need to call her counselor in the morning to let her know. That should be interesting, as her counselor thinks he should come home and will probably tell him that!!
When we talked last week, he said he would see the kids EITHER Monday or Tuesday, but when he left, he said he would see me tomorrow. HHHHMMMM wonder if I am going to have to remind him he does not live here or if I should let him come over. My heart and my mind are telling me to let him be here, to just keep being the new me and let him keep watching up close and personal. Any suggestions?
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
