Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Thanks V,
I do see the preoccupied with 'caring' for himself right now. He needs someone to care for him and I can't be that person. It was very evident to me how self-focused he is-H doesn't really ask how I am much.

Everytime H goes on about something else that has gone wrong I keep thinking its karma coming at 'ya! But that is kind of mean.

I do think H cares about me, as much as he can for now. He has said often in the last several months(and yes this a be the 'nice guy' talking) that he'll always be my friend...
There are times when I don't know if I can always be his friend..if it stays this one-sided forever there just is no point.

I do feel bad for H and can see him suffering.

Peace- I've gotten the sense that when I withdraw from H sometimes he comes closer, but other times he has just remained distant and a bit angry..it seems to depend on where he is, where his A/OW relationshp is...so since H has withdrawn from his two male friends(that sounds sad!) and I have no idea about OW, I feel that if it doesn't make our R worse, I can remain his one-sided, non-mothering, validating friend. I think he needs one.